This is going to be lengthy but the whole is needed for proper perspective.
"We all need the wisdom that derives from those who posess a worldview a little less limited than our own, but young people, who do not have the advantage of wide experience of life in the present, perhaps require this wisdom more than most. The question is: What should we tell them? We live in a time when there is palpable crisis of confidence among many adults as to what to say to their children. Having lost hold on God, the culture has by degrees lost hold of any larger story that make sense of our individual and group stories and that provides us with shared codes of ethics and with role models who enact them.
This loss of narrative and direction makes life difficult enough for adults who have experienced it and who no longer know where they are heading or why, but it makes the task of instructing those younger people whoaccompany us on the journey particularly difficult. There is a justifiable antipathy to the older, authoritarian "Do as I say, not as I do," approach to parenting, for which young people have little respect in any case, but this leads in practice simply to saying less and less - and having less and less conviction about it. Parenting becomes by degrees a matter of the blind leading the blind and is often simply delegated to those proffessionals who are thought to know something that we do not - schoolteachers, doctors, psychologists - or to those willing amateurs, like sports coaches,who seem to get on well with children. The delegation of parenting to the TV is not unknown, for the TV speaks with authority and has role models in abundance. "Who are we to tell our children how to live," we cry, "when we have made such a mess of our world and our lives?" And in our lostness, we become more interested in their approval of us and their friendship with us that in being an adult-in-relation-to-a-child at all. We may even look to them for the wisdom that we lack, for they seem to know so much and be so confident about it." Iain Provan
Interaction here is welcome - but I really think this is a provocative thought in light of the teen problems in our American culture - there is more too but I will save that.
June